We all know the classic five love languages by Dr. Gary Chapman:
Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch. But I have this theory about a sixth—a language of love that speaks directly to desire, confidence, and deeper connection?
Say hello to oral sex: the under-celebrated, often neglected love language that deserves its own chapter in your relationship playbook. Whether it’s a sultry act of service, a physical touch explosion, or a gift your partner never forgets, oral sex is love—in the most intimate, delicious form.
It's something that is just for them, just for you. And I believe it should be celebrated much more often! Hear me out?
Let’s talk about the mindset first:
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Enthusiasm > Perfection
Giving and receiving oral sex isn’t about acrobatics or porn-star precision. It’s about showing up with curiosity, care, and confidence. You don’t need to “finish” or be flawless—you just need to be present.
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Oral = Foreplay, Not Pressure
So many of us put too much pressure on ourselves and worry about a grand eruption. I'd like to invite you to remove the goal-oriented vibe. Oral can be part of a longer build-up, a standalone act of pleasure, or a slow tease before round two. Use it to awaken—not rush—the senses.
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Comfort Creates Confidence
Sleeping naked more often increases touch, spontaneity, and helps normalize vulnerability. Try it—you’ll be surprised how many impromptu makeout sessions turn into oral marathons. Keep in mind if you're prone to infections, you should wear panties, or lingerie to bed. Sleep as nearly-naked as possible. Create an environment conducive to intimacy.
Tips to make oral better (and less intimidating) for everyone:
For the giver:
- Instead of jumping right in, begin with massage even just a simple hand or foot massage, light head scratches or kissing.
- Sync up with your partner, pay attention to their breathing, moans and comfort level.
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Use your tongue, lips, and breath in combo—rhythm is sexier than speed.
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Let your hands join the fun. Caress thighs, hold hips, or tease elsewhere.
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Don’t forget the inner thighs—seriously, they’re underrated hotspots.
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Try flavored lubes or edible gels. Hint: we’ve got plenty, right here on this boutique! CLICK HERE
For the receiver:-
Shower your partner in praise—moans, movement, gentle direction = green lights.
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Practice saying what you like “slower,” “right there,” “use your fingers too” "more pressure" etc
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Shift positions to find what feels best, get creative, lying back isn’t your only option.
For all partners:-
Be vocal and playful.
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Try blindfolds, gentle restraints, or sex furniture to take the pressure off “performing.” Check out some options on my store CLICK HERE
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Products to spice up your oral sessions
Want to level up the pleasure? We got you:
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Flavored lubes: from vanilla swirl to juicy watermelon, these add taste and slickness.
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Cooling & warming balms: apply to sensitive spots for a tingling twist.
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Blindfolds + restraints: sensory play builds anticipation and trust.
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Hands-free vibrators: keep your hands free to explore your partner, while the toy does the work for YOU.
Oral sex is a love language
It’s intimate, personal, and communicates “I want to please you” in the most raw, direct way. Whether you’re giving, receiving, or both—when done with enthusiasm and care—it becomes a powerful act of connection.
So maybe it’s time to add a sixth love language to your relationship toolkit. And hey, if you need tools, you know where to find them. 😘
Sexual Health is Not a Dirty Word,
Love, VALGINA